Live in nanny or au pair

<div class="tagline"><span>What is it like to have a live in nanny or live-in au pair in your home?</span></div>

Some things to consider with the “live in nanny” option when you’re planning to hire a nanny or an au pair for childcare

A live in nanny or live-in au pair might at first seem a difficult decision, if this is your first time. We give you a little advice on the common questions. Please note that it is impossible to cover the rules for every country – check with your Government if there are special rules for your own country.

We use the term ‘live in nanny’, although most of this also applies to au pairs.

1. Cost of a live in nanny

Most of the families on our site find that a live in nanny is a less expensive option than having children in daycare. You have to provide a weekly salary, which can vary from around USD $60 to $300 per week, depending on where you are in the world and the qualifications/experience of your nanny. You also have to provide food and accommodation. In some countries (e.g. the USA) you will also have to put your live-in nanny through one of the recognised Government agencies, which charge for the administration involved. However, the overall cost will normally work out less than the cost of having 2 children in daycare.

2. The nanny’s room

A live in nanny will normally require her own room. Some families worry about the quality of accommodation they can provide. The most important thing is that your au pair or nanny has a clean and functional room. You can discuss the details and expectations with your nanny or au pair. Work out room arrangements you’re both happy with. You might have extra furniture you can offer to your nanny to use, or there might be things she/he can remove from the room and put it somewhere else if he/she doesn’t need it.

3. Food for live in nannies or au pairs

Families often worry too much about the question of food. Generally, however, nannies will eat with the family, or with the children when the parents are working, and it is normal for them to eat what the family eats. If your nannies come from another country, experiencing your cuisine is all part of the cultural adventure!

4. Having a ‘Stranger’ living in your home

This is of course very much a personal decision for parents. Most families find that the benefits of having live in nannies are much greater than the imagined loss of privacy. New Au Pair strongly recommends that a family takes the time to get to know potential nannies before they offer a job. It may take a little time, emailing and talking on the phone, but this is the best way to ensure that your new nanny becomes ‘part of the family’. Our experience is that when nannies ask to leave early (or are asked to leave by the parents) it is often because the decision to employ them was made too quickly. We recommend that you ask your potential new nannies as many questions as possible, to get to know them as well as you can before choosing someone.

5. Additional benefits of live in nannies

Live in nannies will generally help around the home, which can reduce the time you have to spend cooking, cleaning or tidying up. Nannies can also be asked to do some babysitting in the evenings, giving you the chance to go out more. And sometimes, it’s just useful having someone who will wait in for the washing machine repairman so that you don’t have to!